The simplest 4 step process to find love (steps 1 and 2)
When it comes to finding love, the process can feel daunting. Especially if you’ve been single for awhile or have gone on a string of failed dates. I remember when I was in the thick of my dating journey, the reality I wanted felt unachievable.
In my single days I was so used to being on my own, so trying to picture a great love was difficult for me to imagine. My current reality and my dream relationship felt miles apart. And after multiple times being ghosted or left on read, I felt hopeless.
There were so many times I just wanted to give up after endless swiping on the dating apps. But the thing about a soul desire is the they never go away. You can only ignore your true desires for so long until they start screaming at you. My inner voice was getting louder by the day but my ego continued to tell me it wasn’t possible.
And maybe you’re feeling that way, too. You are craving a relationship with a man that can’t get enough of you. You want that dream relationship and refuse to settle for less. And girl, you deserve it! You deserve to find the man that you’re crazy about and who can’t wait to see you.
Even if you feel like dating is a dead end right now, I promise it can happen for you.
After 100 online dates, 2 short term relationships that felt meaningless, and even a painful breakup, I found my dream person. I found the man that loves me to my core and accepts me exactly as I am. We’ve been together for four years and just recently got married.
What kind of relationship are you really desiring? I want you to close your eyes and bring up the image in your mind. I want you to see the man that shows up at your door with flowers unexpectedly. The man that remembers your favorite restaurant and takes you there for your birthday. The man that stays up until 3 am with you, wanting to know everything about you.
How amazing does that feel? I promise he is out there! He’s waiting to meet you, too. So let’s breakdown exactly how you can find this amazing man. The magic is in the work you do before you meet him. The magic of growing your confidence, getting clear on what you want, and taking intentional action. This is exactly what I help my clients do and it’s a beautiful process.
Today I am going to give you an overview of steps 1 and 2 of the simplest 4 step process to finding love. It’s what worked for me and countless other women just like you. So grab your favorite drink, a journal and pen, and carve out some you-time. Each section will have powerful questions you can start applying to your own journey. Here we go!
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Step 1: Stop Self Sabotage
The most powerful place to start is by breaking down all the walls that prevent you from attracting love. Those limiting beliefs that have been with you for years. You know, the ones that tell you that you’ll be single forever or you don’t deserve love like other women.
As kids, you pick up beliefs about love and relationships from your caregivers and the society you live in. You pick up deep held views about marriage based on the relationship you saw your parents have. You also pick up beliefs about your self image and desirability. Maybe you heard your mom constantly talk bad about yourself or other kids teased you during school.
It’s hard to admit that some of these fears have been holding you back but the beautiful thing is that beliefs can be changed at any point in life. You, as an adult, have the power to change your inner world and believe new truths. You are incredibly powerful! I absolutely love when clients have a huge breakthrough and are no longer tied down by these limiting beliefs.
So now it’s your turn, I want you to go through these questions and answer them for yourself. At the end of the questions there will be a powerful way to reframe them and begin to believe new truths for yourself.
Do you believe that finding love is possible for you? Why or why not?
What type of relationship did your parents have?
Have the same relationship patterns from your parents been showing up in your own life?
Do you believe that a committed man is out there for you? Why or why not?
What qualities have your past partners had? Do they share similar qualities?
By asking these questions to yourself, you are starting to peel back the layers to your true self. The self that is worthy and deserving of love! And it’s okay if you don’t like some of the answers from above, here’s how to reframe them to support you.
If you answered: I only attract emotionally unavailable men, none of them want commitment.
Try this reframe: My past partners taught me valuable lessons and I am now ready to attract committed men. It’s safe to trust myself and men in relationships.
If you answered: My parents got divorced when I was young and I do not know what a healthy relationship looks like.
Try this reframe: My parents did the best they could at the time and I release any fear relating to their marriage. I inherently know what a healthy and committed relationship will look and feel like.
See how powerful just the simple way of relooking at these fears is? I want you to go back through and try it for yourself. Reframe the statements in a way that supports you and the future you are craving. You got this!
Step 2: Cultivating Self Love
Now that we got the heavy lifting out of the way, we are on to my favorite step! The reason I even created this life changing program was so that more women can love and accept themselves. When a woman is confident in who she truly is, she is unstoppable. So let’s get you there!
This step is all about finding ways you can support yourself and your dreams. From creating a powerful self love routine to listening to your intuition, this step is all about you. And the beautiful thing is that these lessons can be applied to all areas of your life, not just finding love.
When you love, accept, and take deep care of yourself, life becomes magical. You will feel hopeful and excited about life, rather than fearful and worried. Love will have no choice but to show up in your life effortlessly when you become an energetic match for it.
So now it’s your time to create a powerful self-love routine that supports you and your dreams. Commit to doing this for 20 days and I promise you will start experiencing the magic.
If you want specific help on fostering a relationship with your intuition and how to receive its messages, schedule your free call with me and we will discuss next steps!
Do you currently have a daily routine? Does it support you mentally and emotionally?
Do you have spiritual practices that you already do such as journaling or meditating?
What are some activities you really enjoy doing? Do you make time for them?
What is a reasonable amount of time you can commit to a routine?
From here, I want you to create a routine that feels powerful for you. One that you can commit to doing for the next 20 days, preferably at the same time of day. If you are looking for more guidance, I created an ebook with 7 days of powerful routines. Send me an email and I will send you your free copy!
Here’s an example of a 20 minute daily routine focused on grounding yourself to the present:
10 minute Grounding meditation (search Youtube for options).
10 minute journal reflection about what being in the present moment means to you.
Finish your routine by setting a daily intention to find more ways to be present in your life.
And there you have it! A simple but powerful routine that gets your mindset to a place of empowerment and support. Try if for 20 days and let me know what magic unfolds in your life
Stay tuned for next week when I release the next 2 steps in the journey to finding love. Here’s to you and the meaningful relationship that is out there for you!
Annie
