The simplest 4 step process to find love (steps 3 and 4)

As discussed in the previous post, the first two steps to finding love is all about banishing limiting beliefs and cultivating self love. Those two steps alone will completely change your life. And not just for finding love, but for enhancing your life in all areas.

Did you try the journaling exercise or the daily routine from the first post? They them out for a week and I promise you will start to feel different. You will start to believe new thoughts about your ability to find and attract love. You will start to realize how possible it is for you!

So today I am excited to share the next two steps of this simple process. The first two steps were all about the foundational work and changing your inner world. These steps now get into the tangible action you can take towards finding love. Even if you are in a relationship, these steps can greatly enhance both you and your partner’s life.

There is a big misconception out there that says you only need to think positive thoughts and your dreams will come true. While that is an important step to it, that’s not all. Being a powerful creator of your reality requires new thoughts and actions. Unfortunately you can’t just sit at home hoping that your soulmate will knock on your door (how amazing would that be?!)

This is why I structured my coaching package the way I did, I wanted there to be time for you as the client to actually take inspired action. This process has worked for me and countless other women. If you follow all these steps that combine the spiritual and practical, you will be amazed at the magic that shows up in your life.

Want to learn more about my coaching and see if you would be a good fit? Schedule your free discovery call now and let’s chat! I can’t wait to meet you.

So are you ready to actually get out there and attract more love? Let’s get into the next two steps of this powerful process! Grab your journal and follow along the exercises in each step. 

Step 3: Discover Your Desires

Oftentimes in dating, it’s hard for most people to even realize what they want in a partner. Sure they may know what they want them to look like, but what about the deeper qualities and values? This step alone will have you attracting high quality partners like never before.

The reason most people don’t know what they are exactly looking for is because they let societal norms or beliefs from family’s and friends cloud their judgement. Has anyone close to you quickly judged someone you were dating or interested in? Have your parents told you that you must only date a certain type of person?

See these passed on beliefs can be detrimental to someone that is looking for a meaningful connection. And not just one that will make their mother or best friend approve. When you can learn to drop everyone else’s opinions and tap into your own truth, your life will change.

Before you go on anymore dates, complete the exercise below. You are the only person in charge of your life, so why not be with someone that genuinely makes you happy? This right here is the secret long-lasting and fulfilling relationships. Drop the outside judgements and focus on what YOU want. Refreshing, right?

Take out your journal and answer the below prompts. Have fun with it!

1. List out the top 10 qualities you desire in a partner (do not include anything about how they look).

2. Next to each quality, write out why this is important to you (this will reinforce your desires with your subconscious mind and attract more of these people to you)

3. Now I want you to go back and circle your top 3 traits. These are your non-negotiable traits that your partner must have.

4. For your top 3, write a short paragraph next to each as to why this trait is so important and what it will mean to you to have a partner that embodies this trait.

And there you have it! The same powerful exercise I do with all my clients. Was there anything that shocked or surprised you? Have you ever dated anyone with your top 3 traits?

Also a quick note on why I do not include anything about physical features is because looks will change, qualities will not. And I am a firm believer in the fact that attraction grows over time as you get to know someone. Be open to how your partner may look, and let the Universe surprise you with who shows up in your life. You never know who you may fall in love with!

Another crucial part of this step is a magical manifestation tool I used to attract my soulmate. It’s something that can’t be explained in a blog post and I reserve it for my private clients. Are you serious about finding love? Schedule your call today!

Step 4: Kickstart your Dating Life!

We have arrived to the 4th and final step! Now this will involve you getting off your couch and sweatpants. Trust me, I know how hard that can be. But in all seriousness, this is where you get to practice being the powerful creator of life that you inherently are.

Like I previously mentioned, this step is missing from most manifestation teachings that you read. Yes, thoughts are extremely powerful and life changing but you have to act on those inspired ideas you get. That’s how the Universe is talking to you.

The truth is, is that you are constantly manifesting even if you don’t realize it. Everything in your life is a reflection of a belief or thought you once had. That means you have the power to change anything you don’t like.

So when it comes to dating and finding love, you will have to put yourself out there. Sure you may still experience bad dates, but now you get to be in control. By being confident in yourself and knowing what you want, your dating experience will be amplified. 

I always like to tell clients that they should think of dating as big experiment. Instead of getting immediately attached to a person or agonizing over if someone likes you, why not have fun and see the type of people that come into your life. Take note of the qualities you like and the ones you don’t. Have fun being the confident and attractive person you are!

So let’s get into what inspired action looks like.

1. I want you to look back at your top 3 traits you identified and now ask yourself, do you live by all three? It’s time to start embodying them in yourself! Let’s say you identified you desire a partner who is adventurous, honest, and loving.

2. Now identify all the ways you can live these yourself. Maybe you sign up for that rock climbing course you’ve been eyeing. Or maybe you start getting honest with yourself and everyone in your life, no more hiding your truth. The key to manifesting your dream partner is by embodying all the traits you desire in yourself first.

3. What kind of dating feels like the right path for you right now? Is it online dating or is it meeting someone in person? Decide which one you want to try and get out there! Sign up for that dating app or let your friends know that you’re open to being set up. Show the Universe that you are serious about finding love and you will be greatly rewarded.

I know this action step can feel daunting or your mind is telling you that it won’t work. That’s totally normal, I promise! Take it slow and go at a pace that feels good to you. Set those boundaries around dating and take rest when you need it.

I promise that if you follow these steps, your entire life will open up. You’ll grow and maintain confidence and self love. You’ll put your desires first before anyone else’s opinions. You’ll realize just how attractive you are inside and out. And when you live like that, love has no choice but to enter into your life effortlessly

And if online dating is the route you are taking, sign up for my mini session and get an eye-catching dating profile crafted for you. Get those high quality partners messaging you in no time. This session is a fraction of the investment that coaching is and gets you fast results. Don’t hesitate to schedule yours!

Now I want to hear from you, which step was the most powerful for you? Which one feels like the toughest? Which topic would you like to learn more about? Drop it in the comments below.

Here’s to dating and finding love!

Annie